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NEVER TRY to PLEASE A WOMAN - her biggest turn off (downfall of masculine men)

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-wSLs4I-608

The speaker argues that men should stop trying to please women, because women are wired to focus on what is missing and can never be satisfied; the fix is to hold women to a standard and make them work to please you.

Key points

  • Core thesis: stop trying to please women. Assuming your actions should dictate her happiness is why men lose. This applies at any age.
  • Women focus on What's Missing -- on what they do not yet have. You can give a woman wealth, cars, a mansion, many children, and she will still want more.
  • You cannot win by adjusting yourself: if you are assertive she misses a tender texter; if passive she misses a manly man; if rich she misses a fun guy who lives in the moment; if broke she misses stability. The grass is always greener.
  • This pattern is framed as hypergamy, illustrated with Adam and Eve: Eve, given everything, still wanted the forbidden fruit, and Adam's failure was not leading and saying no. Listening to a woman's wants is called the downfall of men.
  • Female nature is presented as something women cannot control; men set the standard, and weak masculinity is blamed for how modern women behave.

What to do instead

  • Adopt the mindset that it is her job to please you -- not only in the bedroom but in all ways. If a woman at a social event says something weird or boring, walk away mid-sentence with no explanation, the way women do to men.
  • Make her bring value, the right tone, and effort. This requires men to actually care about how they are treated rather than tolerating bad behavior just to keep access to sex.
  • This is about frame and how you act, not money, body fat, or self-improvement metrics. A man can hold this standard with 5 dollars or 50 grand to his name.
  • Stop rewarding promiscuity on social media. Every like and comment on provocative posts reinforces the behavior men claim they do not want.

Reception

  • Strongly receptive audience; many older men say the video matches their own marriage and divorce experiences.
  • A self-identified divorce lawyer's top comment recounts a wealthy, faithful, generous husband whose wife was still unhappy and dragged out the divorce, drawing wide agreement.
  • Recurring themes: "women want more"; always be ready to leave; set boundaries and do not backtrack; being called "controlling" is reframed as having had good boundaries.
  • Several commenters report being happier and more at peace single, and claim women became more interested once they stopped pursuing.
  • Some pushback is mild and generalized rather than disputing the thesis (e.g. noting a small share of women are different).