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Santos breadcrumbs leave you starving

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=0k2fiLWrx-I

How to tell an avoidant's breadcrumb from a genuine bid for connection: breadcrumbs feed their ego with zero follow-through, while real bids bring effort, consistency, and accountability.

Key points

  • A breadcrumb is a low-effort ping ("saw this and thought of you") with no follow-up; it hooks your nervous system without offering real connection.
  • Breadcrumbs leave you questioning the what and why; the tone stays surface-level with no curiosity or risk.
  • A genuine bid has follow-through: they stay past the first message, ask about you specifically, and acknowledge past distance or mistakes.
  • The gut-check: a breadcrumb brings anxiety and confusion; a genuine bid brings calm and a sense of safety.