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HOW to make a woman obsessed with YOU (Front end game 101 to leverage HYPERGAMY in YOUR favor)

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=11ezviouo9I

A step-by-step "front end game" system the speaker claims makes a woman obsessed by withholding interest, treating love as a one-sided game of leverage, and inverting conventional dating advice. Framed as red-pill dating strategy presented as how female psychology actually works.

Key points

  • Core premise: not caring about or wanting her is the ultimate form of high value. Women only want what they cannot have, and mutual love does not exist -- love is a one-sided game of leverage where the adored partner falls hardest.

Step 1 -- massive indifference

  • On the first few dates, demonstrate total indifference and invert all standard "good date" advice. Make the date deliberately mediocre, focus on food/scenery rather than her, seem uninterested so she questions whether she is attractive enough for you.
  • Put a time limit on dates: leave after 20-30 minutes, give no hug goodbye, do not walk her to her car. Withhold masculinity/protectiveness because she has not earned it; force her to consistently earn your time.

Step 2 -- stir drama

  • Over the following weeks, initiate contact intermittently while deliberately stirring emotional tension. Women gravitate toward emotional chaos, which deepens attachment.
  • Judge investment by actions not words: longer text replies mean more time spent and more caring. Use dismissive lines like "whatever," "typical coming from you," "don't give me that BS." Arguing means she is engaging like a girlfriend would.
  • Claims women sleep with men they somewhat hate, and that reactive emotional states create arousal and sexual tension.

Step 3 -- embed the narrative

  • Plant the story in her head: "he didn't like me at first, but I slowly won him over and now he kind of likes me." The uncertainty ("kind of") makes her keep seeking your approval.
  • Claims women tolerate far more than men expect, are not as delicate as believed, and leave "Mr Perfect" because predictability is boring. After intimacy, desire no commitment, communicate less outside the bedroom; in 2-3 months she chases.
  • Frames all of this as behavior women already do naturally (feigned forgetfulness, eye-roll texts, withholding) being played back at them.

Reception

  • Strong approval from much of the audience, with several calling Casey the best relationship-content creator and citing personal experiences that matched the advice.
  • Recurring caveat: commenters say this works mainly on women with anxious/immature attachment and is suited to hookups or short flings, not lasting relationships.
  • Several report the opposite worked for them -- being authentic and showing genuine interest landed a healthy long-term partner.
  • A common refinement: do not show zero intent (it reads as disinterest and they pull away); show minimal intent with a little affection, and have a real life/purpose so the indifference is genuine rather than an act.
  • Some pushback questions the point of relationships built on games, and one comment notes the speaker carefully avoids the word "manipulation."