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Women Are An Extra--Not An Essential | CRP

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1NuxCRJGHi8

The speaker argues a woman is a "premium package," not the car itself -- a nice addition to a man's life but never essential, and treating her as essential is the root of male desperation and failure.

Key points

  • Car metaphor. Your life is a base-model car that runs fine; a woman is the optional premium package. Nice to have, but you do not refuse the car for lacking it.
  • Hygienic need. Like electricity, a woman is something you do not notice when present but feel sharply when absent; that does not make her essential.
  • The paradox: the more desperately you want a woman, the needier you become and the less likely you are to get one.
  • A woman satisfies only three needs, in ascending importance: sex; domestic comfort and companionship; and providing children.
  • Children are the most important need but should be postponed to your late 30s or 40s, since older men make better fathers; he had his own children at 45 and 47 with a much younger wife, and advises not pursuing anything serious with a woman over 25.
  • The other needs can be spread around: companionship through platonic friends or housemates, and sex through other means (he suggests paid sex, citing a rough cost estimate for a trip to Amsterdam's red light district) so you are not "beholden" to one woman.
  • Cautionary anecdote: a young engineer flew to Chile chasing a woman, was rejected, and jumped to his death from a balcony -- a man who wrongly believed one woman was essential.
  • Bottom line: internalizing that any woman is just a delightful extra removes desperation, and that non-neediness is paradoxically what attracts her.

Reception

  • Largely devotional and grateful; many credited the videos with changing or "saving" their lives, and a top comment called him the "internet dad."
  • Heavy mourning -- numerous "RIP Coach / Gonzalo Lira" tributes, several attributing his death to Ukraine.
  • Strong agreement from self-identified MGTOW and single men, with one long comment listing the perceived benefits of staying single.
  • A sober anecdote about a neighbor who took his own life days after his wife left reinforced the video's warning about over-investing in a woman.
  • Some pushback: one questioned the wisdom of his large age gap with his wife given his own aging; another argued men and women are essential to each other and the right woman is genuinely hard to find.