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They come back like it means something...but real love doesn't treat you like an option

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1fn_dODDOTA

When an avoidant ex keeps returning and disappearing, they are coming back for the comfort and validation -- not for real commitment -- and the cycle will repeat until you stop accepting it.

Key points

  • They return like nothing happened, which briefly reopens hope, but they vanish again without explanation or accountability.
  • They come back for the feeling (access, comfort, validation), not because they are ready for consistency or commitment.
  • The pattern: they want the connection but leave when responsibility arrives.
  • The question to ask when they reappear: is this real change, or the same cycle repeating?