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make WOMEN pursue YOU - KEYS to GETTING HER INTO A SUBMISSIVE STATE (the art of female nature)

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Wo3KfvYpO0

The speaker lays out a two-phase model for making women pursue you: a "front end" of playful tension when you first meet, and a "back end" of masculine leadership and engineered distance once you are dating.

Key points

Front end (early interactions)

  • A woman has no idea what you do or earn when she first meets you; she judges you purely on your words, how they make her feel, and your conveyed social value (body language, tone, social skills).
  • Always express slight disinterest, paired with confidence. The vibe should be that she is winning you over and qualifying to you, not the reverse. This is framed as the way to satisfy female hypergamy.
  • Stay playful. Constantly tease to heighten her emotions and pull her into a "puppy love" state of tension and push-pull. Men over-invested in rigid masculinity lose this playful spark.
  • End every interaction (in person or phone) on a high note, at peak emotion, when she is laughing. Leave first so she misses you; men kill attraction by lingering past the peak.

Back end (established dating)

  • Women need to be led physically, mentally/emotionally, and spiritually/morally. Picking the restaurant is not enough; leadership means caring about and directing the small things.
  • Give her tasks and ways to serve or help you; the speaker claims women are happiest serving and pleasing a man, but will not act unless you verbally direct her.
  • The hardest skill is deliberately creating distance once a routine sets in. He uses an "ancestral" mental model: ancestors left to hunt or build for hours, so you should be visibly working on something and let her miss you.
  • "What feels good is typically not good for you" (e.g. cuddling on the couch) when it comes to maintaining attraction.

Reception

  • Strongly positive; many commenters say the techniques work when executed and that taking charge transformed their relationships.
  • Several echoed the distance theme, quoting "absence makes the heart grow fonder" and Robert Greene's Law 16 (use absence to increase respect).
  • One long comment broke the tension-building into three stages (routine, engineered conflict/space, conflict-resolution release), reporting strong results.
  • A minority pushed back with frustration, saying most women reject or play games regardless and it is better to move on to women who make it easy.