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Stop waiting for them to wake up and finally get it

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2fnAbOwngW0

Your ex is not going to spontaneously gain the self-awareness to understand what they did -- they will rewrite the story instead, so stop waiting for an apology that requires accountability they never built.

Key points

  • Avoidants protect themselves from shame by blaming the other person ("you were too much, too emotional") rather than doing the internal work of facing what they ran from.
  • Change, if it ever comes, won't happen on your timeline or in the form you imagined.
  • Waiting for them to "get it" keeps you stuck; your healing requires detaching from their timeline and their understanding.
  • Taking your power back means stopping the chase for validation or acknowledgment from someone who couldn't fully hold your heart.