If avoidants are black cats, what are you? #attachmentstyles #avoidantpartner #relationshipadvice¶

Avoidants are like black cats: they crave connection but flinch when you reach for them, and you cannot chase them into closeness.

Key points¶

Avoidants are not cold or heartless -- they are cautious and overwhelmed by intimacy.
The more you pursue or try to prove you are safe, the more cornered they feel and the faster they retreat.
Like a cat, they do bond and return, but only when the choice feels entirely theirs.
Their pullback may reflect fear of needing you too much, not a lack of feeling.