If you need help with the breadcrumb response, leave it in the comments and I'll try to get to it

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4aydtXw6CXg

Avoidants almost always come back, but nearly always as a breadcrumb rather than a genuine bid for reconnection -- so have your boundary response ready before it happens.

Key points

• When an avoidant returns, 99% of the time they are checking whether you are still accessible, not offering real reconciliation.
• They revisit old connections because unprocessed feelings and curiosity linger, not because they have done the work.
• The form of return varies (a like on a story, a meme, a random question) but the intent is the same: gauge your availability.
• Have a boundary text written in advance so you are not caught off guard deciding how to respond in the moment.