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you need your boundary text #avoidant #attachmentstyle #dismissiveavoidant #theyalwayscomeback

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=50NoPdr7v3M

After a breakup, an avoidant checks out emotionally long before they say the words -- then cycles back into coping mechanisms and eventually resurfaces, which is why you need a boundary text ready.

Key points

  • Avoidants disengage months before the official breakup; the breakup itself is just the next coping step.
  • After breaking up they return to their old coping patterns, then often show back up again.
  • A "boundary text" signals you are no longer their safety net and establishes you will not keep extending yourself.
  • Real change in an avoidant requires them to sit with their patterns and take accountability -- without that, the cycle repeats.