They don't pull away because they don't care¶

Avoidants pull away not to reject you but to protect fears rooted in past experiences where love felt conditional or unsafe.

Key points¶

When you get close, their nervous system triggers alarm; what looks like disinterest is their fear whispering "don't get trapped."
The silence is not about something you did wrong -- it is their defense against being seen and potentially hurt again.
Every time they choose to protect those fears they also reinforce the loneliness they are trying to escape.
Their walls are built around parts of themselves that once needed love and didn't receive it, not against you specifically.