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Coach Red Pill - The First Question You Ask a Woman

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6IjXWHrZN8Q

The speaker claims the single most important thing to learn early about a romantic prospect is her relationship with her father, because a bad one predicts she cannot pair bond.

Key points

  • For any woman you are romantically interested in, find out early what her relationship with her father is like -- but do it smoothly and conversationally, not as a blunt interrogation.
  • Claim: "99 times out of 100," a woman with a bad or absent father relationship is "screwed up in the head" and unable to pair bond; a healthy father relationship predicts a normal romantic relationship.
  • A woman with daddy issues unconsciously treats her partner as a father substitute and punishes him for what her father failed to provide.
  • The pattern: she is sweet, cuddly, and appeasing at first, then the tension of trying to fix the absent-father wound through him builds until she explodes -- tantrums, verbal, emotional, sometimes physical attacks -- for no real reason tied to him.
  • Anecdote: a girlfriend once chased him around his New York kitchen with a serrated knife despite his having done nothing.
  • Bottom line: ask about the father early to avoid being drawn into this drama.

Reception

  • Heavily positive and high-engagement; many men said they lived this exact pattern and wished they had known the question decades earlier.
  • Top comment reframes the advice: just get her talking and listen, and she will reveal everything herself.
  • Several detailed agreement stories, including a man whose partner reminded her of her father before the relationship collapsed, and one who watched an ex turn civil only when her own father physically restrained her.
  • Practical tips offered: lead by sharing your own family background first, ask about "family" generally, and treat extreme guardedness about her dad as the answer itself.
  • Numerous "RIP Coach / Gonzalo" tributes, with several noting he died in a Ukrainian prison under disputed circumstances.