Your dismissive avoidant didn't leave because you weren't enough

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6N9mfwsoxls

A skit-format short walking through post-breakup advice for someone whose dismissive avoidant just ended things: enter strict 30-day no contact immediately.

Key points

• After a dismissive avoidant breakup, handle logistics fast (exchange belongings), then cut contact completely for 30 days -- no check-ins, no emotional essays.
• No contact gives you space to regulate and gives them time to move through their avoidance cycle and start to miss you; trying to be understood right now is futile because they are in shutdown, not reflection.
• Dismissive avoidants do not process loss in real time -- they process it later, after relief fades and distractions stop working.
• If they return before doing real work, the cycle just repeats; the goal of no contact is getting back to yourself, not getting them back.