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MIRROR OR WAIT!? Which one should you do? It depends

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6Pj4YwLL6Uw

Two practical texting-cadence options for navigating the uncertain in-between period with an avoidant: mirror their pace or cut their response time in half.

Key points

  • Option 1: mirror exactly -- match however long they take to reply, letting them set the pace.
  • Option 2: cut their delay in half -- if they take six hours, reply in three; signals interest without pressure.
  • If you need clarity and the waiting game is unsustainable, it is acceptable to respond faster so you get the answers you need.
  • The goal is not game-playing but finding a texting rhythm that feels safe for them and tolerable for you.