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9 THINGS man should NOT DO with WOMEN

Channel: The Dark Needle
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6R6liJWeUh4

Framed around a story of a man who repeatedly failed with a woman he liked, the video lists nine behaviors the narrator says signal "low value" and kill attraction.

Key points

  • Do not put a woman on a pedestal for her looks. The narrator claims good looks are common and personality is rare, so a man should act as if he judges by personality, which earns him the "different guy" tag women want.
  • Do not agree with her too much. Constant agreement reads as weak approval-seeking; women want a challenge, not a man who plays by her rules.
  • Do not seek her approval or acceptance. Attraction is something she cannot control, and approval-seeking is a fast attraction killer. He advises talking less and making the conversation about her.
  • Do not declare feelings too early or say "I love you" first. Revealing feelings early lets her feel she has "conquered" you and kills the tension. Keep her guessing.
  • Do not solve her problems. Solving them puts you in the "provider zone" or friend zone; women want a listener, not a fixer, and can handle their own problems.
  • Do not act fully disinterested. The correct pattern alternates interest with mild disinterest (example: "you look cute in this dress, but pink would have been better"); pure disinterest or insults are rude and drive her away.
  • Never discuss your own problems or insecurities with women, as it signals weakness. The one exception is mentioning a weakness while laughing at yourself.
  • Never give a direct yes. Set conditions or make her ask again, but only for trivial requests, not urgent ones.
  • Never let her make you angry or upset. Reacting means she controls you; nasty remarks may be tests, so stay "like a rock in the storm."

Reception

  • Many commenters identify strongly with the cautionary story, with several saying "that guy was me" and thanking the channel for boosting their confidence.
  • Top comments summarize the nine points as a checklist, indicating the list-format resonated.
  • A notable thread pushes back on the "play games" framing: commenters argue you should stay true to yourself, become a genuinely high-value man rather than act like one, and that the right partner will not require tricks.
  • Several express fatigue or disillusionment ("this dance is so tiring," "if it needs this much psychology it's not worth it"), and a few women commenters say they find the games-based mindset sad.
  • One long, highly-liked comment endorses the points but reframes them through a worldview that treats women as childlike, drawing both agreement and the framework's logic further out.