They're not just "randomly" watching your stories

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6YMM3anJn-k

An avoidant who watches your stories and likes your posts without reaching out wants access without the vulnerability or accountability of actual contact.

Key points

• Watching feels safe; reaching out risks hearing "I'm not here anymore," so they keep their distance while staying close enough to monitor you.
• They want connection but not accountability -- the passive observation lets them soothe anxiety and check whether you have moved on without exposing themselves.
• This is classic avoidant behavior: contemplating reaching out, then letting fear stop them right at the edge of action.
• The question to ask yourself is whether you are okay with them having front-row access, or whether it is time to set a boundary.