Dismissive Avoidants Obsess Over People Who DO THESE THINGS ??

Channel: Thais Gibson - Personal Development School
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7Gssk9CjWfw

Lists five things the speaker says a dismissive avoidant is drawn to and can become obsessed with, even though avoidants tend to deactivate rather than pursue when they catch feelings.

Key points

• Avoidants seek partners who are not superficial -- someone with depth, curiosity, and some emotional availability, who builds connection through meaningful discussion rather than material things.
• They look for a partner who also values their own freedom and independence, so the avoidant does not fear being trapped, engulfed, or suffocated.
• Feeling deeply seen, heard, and empathized with creates limerence in dismissive avoidants. They do experience limerence and can internally obsess, but tend not to pursue it, instead taking space when feelings rise.
• They yearn to feel supported and accepted without judgment, and without that support being pressuring or engulfing. Getting these childhood-unmet needs met while their engulfment fears stay calm makes their brain "light up."
• They crave harmony, acknowledgment, and appreciation. Small sincere thanks build positive momentum; avoidants respond to positive reinforcement, not criticism.
• The five qualities build on each other: depth, independence, feeling seen, acceptance/support, and harmony together drive an avoidant to invest and obsess.