Avoidants perspective on seeing your posts

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7WV0yC7YiA4

When an avoidant sees your social media posts after a breakup, three thoughts race through their head: why am I still feeling this, are they moving on, and should I reach out.

Key points

• The avoidant told themselves they were fine and moved on -- your post cracks that story open, triggering curiosity, jealousy, or a sense of loss.
• Seeing you happy or detached creates internal noise: the comfort of knowing you were still available disappears.
• The "should I reach out" impulse is not a sign of healing or growth; avoidants feel things once there is enough distance for it to feel safe.