When they come back...not if. Know what you want out of the interaction going in. #avoidant¶

When an avoidant comes back, five scripted responses give you a framework to re-engage on your terms rather than defaulting to relief or resentment.

Key points¶

Five options range from the open door ("I'm open, but I've changed -- prove you're not just here because it's convenient") to the power pivot ("I'm not the version you left").
The closed chapter and soft confrontation scripts name what happened without re-opening the door automatically.
The curious mirror uses silence and open questions to surface the avoidant's actual intent before any forward movement.
Core message: just because they came back does not mean they belong -- you get to decide, not your relief at hearing from them.