every unhealed avoidant will continue to repeat their patterns, here's why

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8qyUYSvBj2w

The unhealed avoidant runs a repeating loop -- chase, get it, sabotage it, miss it, reach back out -- driven by fear of intimacy that makes closeness scarier than loss.

Key points

• When they finally have what they wanted, fear of being seen, fear of not being enough, and fear of abandonment kick in and they push it away.
• Once it is gone they fantasize about it; the ex becomes a phantom they idealize precisely because it is now at a safe distance.
• The cycle only breaks when the avoidant looks at their patterns, takes accountability, and addresses their fears -- until then, repeat is inevitable.