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Coach Red Pill - Obsessing About a Girl

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9yInV2JCpdA

The speaker explains male obsession over a barely-known woman as sexual drive colliding with men's problem-solving focus, and prescribes pursuing other women to break it.

Key points

  • Obsessing over a girl you barely know (even an Instagram model) is common to every man. He attributes it to two things combining: sexual desire plus men's natural drive to fix and conquer problems.
  • That obsessive focus is useful for solving engineering or work problems, but when aimed at a woman it wastes time, distracts from life, and in the extreme can turn dangerous.
  • The cure is abundance: deliberately set the obsession aside and have sex with other women, however attractive you find them. Obsession blinds you to other women, the opposite of what you need.
  • Another cure is to actually get to know her and discover she is ordinary, silly, or superficial; the illusion dissolves on contact with reality.
  • He tells of a late-90s New York Vogue photo of a model he was introduced to in person and found crass, unfeminine, and dull; the obsession vanished and he declined her later date.
  • Obsession is fueled by hope and imagination filling her with qualities she likely lacks. Roughly one in seven to ten men are people you genuinely like; the same ratio applies to women.
  • Indulge the feeling rarely and carefully; he likens it to cocaine ("one line is too many and two is not enough").

Reception

  • Strongly positive ("this stuff is gold"), with many RIP and tribute comments to the late creator and thanks to the uploader.
  • "Abundance is the solution" was a top recurring theme; several redirected the advice toward obsessing over money, health, freedom, and goals instead.
  • Multiple viewers said they were living it right now (one called himself a simp; another had gone two-plus weeks no-contact) and used it as a pep talk.
  • One commenter claimed the dynamic can be weaponized: fixating on an unattainable woman makes the women around you more attracted, but only if the indifference is genuine.