Borgerding leaving and jumping into something new quickly is rarely about you, it's about the

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A2iUNKcr69U

Avoidants rebound quickly not because they are over you, but because they fear being alone almost as much as they fear intimacy, and a new relationship is simply the nearest distraction.

Key points

• Despite appearing independent and detached, avoidants find aloneness genuinely unsafe and exposing.
• A new relationship provides instant distraction from silence and loss -- it masks the fear of abandonment with the illusion of connection rather than true intimacy.
• Until an avoidant faces both fears (intimacy and aloneness), the pattern repeats: every new relationship becomes an escape route.
• Mack Herman speaks from personal experience as a self-identified healing avoidant.