If you're wondering if it's really over with your avoidant ex...it might not be¶

Regretting a breakup is not the same as having made a mistake -- reconciliation only works when both people show up changed, not just remorseful.

Key points¶

The haunting question "did I make a mistake?" often reflects grief and nostalgia for moments that felt safe, not a genuine signal to return.
If they were capable of showing up fully, they would have; if the relationship had the safety you needed, it would have lasted.
Reconciliation requires accountability and changed behavior on their part -- it won't come from you begging or from their regret alone.
Feeling regret can itself be a sign of healing and growing self-awareness about what you deserve.