Darkest manipulation technique to make anyone obsessed with you ?

Channel: Francesca Psychology
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ATiVU4BkCRk

A short clip describing a "dark" dynamic by which unstable people become obsessed with grounded ones, framed as awareness/self-protection rather than a how-to.

Key points

• The speaker explicitly says she does not recommend using this; the point is awareness and self-protection.
• Uses two figures: an unstable, self-centered person with weak values and "no center of gravity," and a grounded "tree" person with values and stability.
• Claim: obsession arises when someone feels a lack within (love, safety, security they cannot give themselves) and senses another person has it; the unstable person gravitates toward the grounded one.
• A "good match" for obsession is described as a weak-personality people-pleaser paired with a self-centered, grounded narcissist.
• To draw such people in, "become the tree" - centered, opinionated, grounded, with a lot to give - and lost or unstable people will gravitate toward you.
• Notes that becoming grounded with a real personality is itself a healthy process; only the "narcissistic part" is the unhealthy element.