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When it ended, was it a breakup or a discard? The difference changes everything, sometimes it's not

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B2SSl0e8ZxM

A breakup involves acknowledgement, some reason given, and grief clarity, while a discard is an abrupt, unexplained ending that leaves you questioning your worth.

Key points

  • Breakup: messy but communicative - there is acknowledgement the relationship is ending, some reason offered, and clarity.
  • Discard: abrupt and dehumanizing - the other person ghosts, shuts off, or drops you without explanation or closure.
  • The defining feature of a discard is that it leaves you replaying every conversation searching for meaning that was never given.
  • Both are painful; neither is worse than the other in terms of the grief involved.