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2 Trails yes, send the letter

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BgWJpC07wD4

There is a right time to send a letter to an ex - determined by relationship length and whether you are sending it to reconnect rather than just to relieve anxiety.

Key points

  • Short relationships (under a year): 30 days no-contact before sending; longer or deeply attached relationships: closer to 90 days.
  • Avoidants don't process in real time, so more time lets emotions settle, the ego cool, and curiosity build.
  • A letter sent too early reads as reactive; sent at the right time it reads as grounded.
  • The key question before sending: are you doing this to reconnect, or just to relieve your own anxiety?