They will think these things, and still not reach out¶

Six things an avoidant thinks about during no contact - and why thinking them still does not get them to reach out.

Key points¶

They wonder if you hate them, whether you see them differently now, and what would even happen if they came back.
They think about whether you have replaced them - it hits in waves.
They miss you but are also aware of the push-pull that kept them stuck; that unresolved tension does not simply disappear.
They often talk themselves into silence as the "gracious" or "mature" move - which is really just the safer option for themselves.
No contact gives them more space to avoid without being confronted; curiosity eventually creeps in but the bar for reaching out stays high.