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WARNING The Gap Between Normies and Chads is Growing

Channel: Wheat Waffles
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CNe6gCNxWaY

A "blackpill" data argument that the dating-market gap between average men ("normies") and the top 10-15% ("Chads") is widening, with five proposed causes.

Key points

  • Three tiers of men are posited: sub-5 (struggling), normie (average), and Chad (top 10-15%), with the top monopolizing the dating market more than at any point in history.
  • Cites a Finnish study (1971-2015) of median intimate partners. In 2015, 18-24 year-old men report a record-low median of 3 partners while women report an all-time-high 5. The speaker argues this gap is driven mainly by a few top men seeing many women, not by age gaps (Western couples differ by ~2 years) or by lying (men exaggerate, women downplay).
  • In the 1970s the pattern was reversed (men had higher medians), implying a fundamental shift. Cites a chart of those reporting no intimacy in the past year: a sharp rise for men since ~2010, coinciding with Tinder; flat for women.
  • Asserts "a woman's promiscuity is correlated to her values while a man's promiscuity is correlated to his value."
  • Five reasons the gap is growing: (1) Chad monopolization - abundance and online dating let top men take many women out of a zero-sum market; (2) men's biological drive to "divide and conquer" vs women optimizing for quality; (3) rising standards - height (6 foot now a norm), income, cars ("the desires of today become the expectations of tomorrow"), amplified by social-media comparison; (4) birth control removing the risk that once limited female promiscuity; (5) looks now dominate, as Western women no longer need to chase older, wealthier men and can pursue attractive younger ones.

Reception

  • Strongly receptive: top comments treat the video as confirmation of "blackpill" beliefs, with several saying it validated thoughts they had since high school.
  • Many echo the central claim, quoting "a woman's promiscuity is related to her values, a man's to his value" approvingly.
  • Recurring resentment toward women's standards: complaints that average women reject men under 6 feet or balding, and that "the normie of yesterday is the incel of today."
  • Several anecdotes assert the thesis (a "Chad" attracting women in clubs without speaking; a friend with a dating "rotation").
  • A vein of despair and loneliness runs through the comments, including from men describing depression and isolation, and high-achieving men saying career success "doesn't do shit" against looks.