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THIS means AVOIDANT finds you VERY ATTRACTIVE...! ! !

Channel: Guided Awareness
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CgHvUm1A9_Q

The speaker, a therapist working mainly with avoidant clients, lists the subtle ways an avoidantly attached partner signals attraction, since they express all emotions more indirectly than other attachment styles.

Key points

  • For avoidants, deep attraction is rarely purely physical; they tightly link respect with love and attraction, more so than other styles (especially dismissive avoidants).
  • They call you intelligent, smart, or well-versed in a subject. Avoidants prize logic and competence, often see it as what they bring, and find it attractive in others.
  • They comment on the effort behind your appearance ("I like how you put that outfit together," "is that new?") rather than blunt physical praise, because they read and give compliments as acknowledgment of hard work.
  • Staring (more common in male avoidants), often unconsciously; they stop and may look embarrassed when caught.
  • If asked directly "do you find me attractive?" they usually answer honestly and simply yes. The speaker frames this as something you are allowed to ask and deserve to know.
  • They admit discomfort about you talking to / about the opposite sex or an ex (saved contacts, "he did this for you"). Framed as a blunt, unpolished mix of attraction, possessiveness, and respect; the speaker warns not to provoke it to get a reaction.
  • Playful teasing, subtle touching, laughing once they feel comfortable and intimate, seen early on but a good sign in later relationship stages.