No contact is normally the route I preach, but sometimes, it is ok¶

Three signs that it may be time to reach out to an avoidant ex, all contingent on your own emotional state being settled first.

Key points¶

Sign one: the emotional intensity has settled -- reaching out from clarity and genuine desire to connect lands differently than reaching out from anxiety or desperation; avoidants can feel the difference.
Sign two: they have given small signals of openness -- story watches, liking old posts, quicker replies -- indirect ways of staying in orbit before risking direct vulnerability.
Sign three (the biggest): you are genuinely okay with any outcome, including no reply, because healthy reconnection cannot be forced out of someone else.