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You weren't "too much" or "too emotional" or "crazy" They just didn't have the capacity to meet you

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EQtXIj-X-Mg

Your avoidant actually felt what you felt -- they just could not admit it, because acknowledgment would have forced accountability and surrender of their hiding.

Key points

  • They did feel the pull, the safety, and the connection; they buried it because allowing that depth meant no more hiding.
  • They told themselves you were "too much" not because you were, but because they did not know how to meet you there.
  • They saw your effort and felt your presence -- your intensity was not the problem, it just exposed their avoidance.
  • They could not say "I feel it too but I do not know how to stay," so they left you questioning your own perception -- but you were not imagining it.