TLDR; yes¶
Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FQkU_ZjurEI
Mack (an avoidant herself) explains how she learned to verbalize her need for space rather than silently disappearing, and how a standing nightly check-in gives her anxious partner security.
Key points¶
- She now names overwhelm in the moment and asks for space explicitly, rather than going silent for hours and leaving her partner feeling deprioritized.
- The shift required both parties owning their style: she communicates her avoidant need for space; he communicates his anxious need for reassurance.
- A concrete agreement -- a 9:30 p.m. nightly check-in, with an apology and explanation if missed -- replaced the guessing game.