THEY RESPOND TO GRACE AND SPACE

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G-CgDvtjUsg

Avoidants do not respond to blame or confrontation -- the way to address hurtful behavior is to name what you observe, share your feeling without attacking, and offer safety with no pressure.

Key points

• Script: "I noticed you're pulling back" (observation) + "when that happens I feel distance" (feeling) + "I'd love to talk when you're ready" (safety, no pressure).
• The goal is not to corner or shame them but to show that connection will not cost them their freedom.
• Both sides need accountability: the avoidant must work on staying; the partner must resist chasing.