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Coach Red Pill Its not about Confidence - Women want + emotions

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G3iH5jzKqpY

Third entry in a series responding to a black-pill creator ("Wheat Waffles"). The speaker argues that attraction is not about looks alone, nor even confidence alone, but about a man's ability to make a woman feel strong emotions.

Key points

  • Rejects the black-pill "genetic determinist" view that only looks matter. Concedes that between two equally handsome men the more confident one wins, but says looks are not decisive.
  • Confidence matters because it makes a woman feel secure, but the speaker insists it is only one emotion among many a man must supply.

Age and what women want

  • Teenage girls (13-19) want a pretty boy and are scared off by strong personality; they operate as a "hive mind."
  • Women in their early-to-late 20s, having tired of pretty boys, crave a man with substance, gravitas, and firm opinions.

Emotions as the core mechanism

  • Claims men crave information and theories about the world (objective reality) while women crave emotions (emotional reality), framed as an evolutionary split between hunting and social attunement.
  • A man attracts a woman by being the source of positive emotions: attention, fascination, an aesthetic experience (e.g. an elegant restaurant), and confident, matter-of-fact correction of her.
  • Describes a push-pull tactic: lavish attention then withdraw it, leaving a void so she chases. Ties this to the pickup-artist concept of "love bombing."
  • Argues "abusive asshole boyfriends" succeed because they deliver intoxicating, if not positive, emotions, which he calls a "bug in the system" of female psychology.
  • Bottom line: supply strong positive emotions plus occasional heartache and a woman will stay; looks become secondary.

Reception

  • Many top comments are memorial messages ("RIP Gonzalo," "Miss you coach"), indicating the creator is presumed dead, with some speculating he was killed in Ukraine.
  • Strong agreement with the attention-then-withdrawal idea; several commenters restate that giving a woman attention and taking it away makes her want more.
  • A recurring caveat: do not give constant attention, as women lose interest or get bored and seek a challenge elsewhere.
  • A widely-liked basketball analogy argues looks function like height in basketball, generating positive reinforcement that builds confidence, while a less good-looking man must work harder.
  • Some pushback: one commenter calls manipulating emotions unethical and refuses to do it; another rejects being a woman's rebound after she fails to land "chad."