When an avoidant says "I love you," it might not mean what you think it means¶

When an avoidant says "I love you" they may mean an intense feeling in the moment, not a commitment to a stable future.

Key points¶

Avoidants crave closeness until it becomes real and consistent; they chase depth until it demands accountability.
They will pour everything into you, then label you needy or "too much" when you ask for more than they can give.
The pattern is falling into fantasy and performing intimacy -- saying all the right things until reality hits their emotional ceiling.
They did not flip or change; they simply reached their limit and could not move past it.
You did not ask for too much; you asked the wrong person at the wrong time.