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THE REASON TO GET MARRIED | Coach Red Pill

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G_tFzXQznds

The speaker argues that in modern society the only valid reason to get married is to raise children, since sex and companionship are both available without marriage.

Key points

  • Marriage historically secured regular sex and companionship, but he says both are now available outside marriage (you can cohabit and even own property together), so neither justifies marrying.
  • He posits raising children is the only remaining reason to marry; without kids, marriage is just a "companionate" or "sexual" arrangement that can be dissolved when it stops working.
  • Men need a goal. He argues men are object-oriented and need a "mountaintop"; with survival now easy, modern men must manufacture purpose, and raising children is a powerful one.
  • Kids create a lifelong bond and a shared project that survives even an unhappy marriage, raising the commitment above a dissolvable partnership.
  • Distinguishes happiness as an occasional "happy accident" from the deeper satisfaction of watching one's children grow; says day-to-day, kids are annoying and expensive, but the long view brings enormous fulfillment.
  • Frames childless couples with vacations, toys, and "hedonistic" pleasure as having no meaning beyond pleasure; says he lived that life and found it grew empty around age 40 once the challenge was gone.
  • Concludes that a man should look for a woman who understands marriage is about building a family, then "lock her down."

Reception

  • Memorial and emotional tone, with grief over the channel being wiped and tributes to the late Coach.
  • Strong agreement from some, including a former anti-kid commenter who says having a child transformed their life from a "fish tank" to "an ocean."
  • Notable dissent: several childless commenters reject the "hedonism" framing and argue a childless life can be meaningful, sparking back-and-forth over the definition of hedonism and legacy.
  • Some question marriage itself in Western countries, citing divorce and one-sided risk.
  • Pointed irony in the comments: more than one notes Lira later abandoned his own wife and children, calling the video hypocritical in hindsight.