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WOMEN only FANTASIZE about men who have OTHER WOMEN on the SIDE (hidden female nature SECRETS)

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IRoGqbrgS3g

Argues that monogamous commitment destroys a man's attractiveness by removing the "competition anxiety" that drives a woman's desire, and that openly keeping other women on the side restores it.

Key points

  • The speaker claims a breakup always reduces to one thing: the man revealed his "sexual market value" (SMV) through countless micro-behaviors, so she concluded she could do better. He urges men to conceal interest and intent.
  • He argues women's attraction runs on a longer time horizon than men's, while men's high testosterone creates urgency; when a man attaches, his energy shifts from calm and seductive to reactive and pleasing, which she senses.

Inside a committed relationship

  • He claims a woman's "hypergamy" constantly asks one question: "could this man replace me with a woman on my level?" Commitment answers yes-she-is-the-best-he-can-do, which he says triggers her to emasculate him.
  • He describes a battery of "insecurity tests" and "interest tests" (the upside-down phone left buzzing through dinner, sitting in the car for 20 minutes) designed to see if a man is "booty whipped."
  • He argues routine kills desire: even Drake, Brad Pitt, or Leonardo DiCaprio become boring once committed, because commitment strips the "superpowers" (mystery, options, preselection) that created attraction.
  • "Masculine frame can't make up for the loss in competition anxiety" that comes with commitment; high value to a woman, he claims, is simply a man she feels inferior to and must work to win, at any age, height, or income.

His prescription

  • Openly seeing other women, he argues, restores preselection and curiosity, and he claims women respond with better behavior, fewer tests, and renewed sexual interest.
  • His "golden rule": if you cannot replace her within a week or two at her attraction level, you have no business being monogamous with her.
  • He frames all of this as lessons from a decade and a high volume of his own dating mistakes.

Reception

  • Strongly receptive among the top comments, with many older or experienced men saying the claims match what their relationships taught them.
  • Multiple commenters share confirming anecdotes: attraction peaking while non-monogamous, or a partner re-engaging once they stopped prioritizing her.
  • A common takeaway is cynical: "never commit," "relationships are a waste of time," or that men should only ever keep options open.
  • Notable pushback: some call normalizing cheating immature and insist loyal, mutually happy long-term relationships are real and worthwhile.
  • A few frame the advice as learning to read women's actions over words and to guard against over-investing emotionally.