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NEVER live with a woman (my untold nightmare of female nature)

Channel: Casey Zander
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVtY_13Z2wA

The speaker recounts a personal story of a live-in girlfriend who reacted to a breakup with threats and warns men never to cohabit with a woman unless married.

Key points

  • Core advice: unmarried men should never live with a woman, because if things go bad you discover how legally and physically powerless you are.
  • He says his early-20s live-in relationship in Arizona declined after the honeymoon phase; he concluded he was settling and decided to end it.
  • He claims composure is attractive: he never raised his voice, swore, or lost emotional control, and a man who cannot be moved off-center both attracts and unnerves women.
  • When he tried to dissolve the relationship, he describes the woman hysterically crying, wrapping a phone charger cord around her neck, and threatening to falsely tell police he had hit her.
  • He says he chose to leave anyway rather than submit to her frame, citing his father's advice to never give information to authorities without a lawyer present.
  • He later returned, smoothed things over, and over weeks calculated a way out.

Underlying claims about female nature

  • People, men and women, are "only as faithful as their options" and act in their own self-interest.
  • Modern women are not used to being dumped or being at a disadvantage, so they cannot take rejection.
  • A man's value rises with age, income, status, and wisdom, giving him leverage in relationships, whereas a young man has little.

Reception

  • Overwhelmingly agreeing; many men shared their own stories of partners who turned on them during breakups.
  • Several recounted false abuse or rape accusations and credited cameras or video recordings with clearing them; commenters advised documenting erratic behavior and pressing charges.
  • A self-identified divorce lawyer backed the warning, noting domestic violence cases often use a "preponderance of evidence" standard.
  • A recurring theme: never marry, never cohabit, never share assets; cohabiting alone is described as a peace-of-mind risk.
  • One commenter pushed back, arguing the situation went bad because neither party was in a committed monogamous relationship.