Chasing them won't bring them closer

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LGn9xSn0Tco

Chasing an avoidant when they pull away confirms to their nervous system that retreat was the right call -- stopping the chase is the only way to reclaim your power.

Key points

• Avoidants don't run because they don't care; they run because closeness feels unsafe and pursuit feels like smothering pressure, not love.
• How to stop chasing: pause, sit in the silence, resist the urge to beg or over-explain, and let them make the next move.
• When you stop chasing, two things happen: you get your power back, and you find out whether they step into the space or just wanted the attention.