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Coach Red Pill - Your illusions about women

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LS03EwkhblQ

The speaker argues men chronically idealize hard-to-reach goals -- including women -- then feel deflated once they attain them, because they were chasing an image in their head, not the real thing.

Key points

  • The achievement illusion. He recounts dreaming of being a published author; when his book finally sat in a Barnes and Noble, he felt indifference, not the ecstasy he had imagined. He pinpoints that anticlimax as the start of his career's collapse.
  • Why men build the illusion. He claims men are constituted (genetics/evolution) to pursue great goals, whereas "women want to feel certain ways, men want to achieve certain things." To sustain the hard pursuit, a man idealizes the goal into an idol -- necessary fuel, but distorting.
  • Applied to women. A man treats a desired woman as his "Everest"; on finally getting her, he finds she has bad breath, unfunny jokes, is "kind of stupid" -- disappointment, because he was attracted to a mental image. He distinguishes this from "sour grapes" (the man who never gets her and dismisses her), drawing on his own experience dating "really hot women" in his early 30s and finding them underwhelming.
  • Jung's Anima/Animus. He attributes the projecting-an-inner-image phenomenon to Carl Jung's anima/animus complex and points viewers to it.
  • The fix: examine the goal once attained. The mistake is not examining what you achieved because it was so hard to get -- you may be clutching a worthless "zirconium" you mistook for a diamond. Honestly assess it; if the woman (or job) is not worthwhile, let go without fear and pursue the next "Everest," since reaching one gives you the tools for the next.

Reception

  • The comment section is overwhelmingly a memorial: many "RIP Coach" / "RIP Gonzalo Lira" notes mourning the creator (who died in Ukrainian custody), several wishing he had stayed out of the Russia-Ukraine politics that led there.
  • Strong admiration for his explanatory skill -- commenters call him the only one on YouTube who could break this down so clearly, and "a legend" who "spoke a lot of truth."
  • Some engage the actual thesis, relating from lived experience (e.g. a 38-year-old who dated "hot chicks" agreeing the letdown is real).