Replying to @?? They don't hate you¶

When an avoidant made you the villain in their story, it was because rewriting the narrative was easier than facing their own dysregulation.

Key points¶

Avoidants distort the narrative -- "you were too much, too emotional, too needy" -- not to hurt you but to protect an identity that cannot withstand accountability.
You were not the enemy; you were the mirror, reflecting things they were not equipped or ready to face.
"You made me feel things I wasn't ready to handle" is what they really meant but could not say.
Their inability to look clearly at themselves does not make you the problem; it means they were not ready to grow.