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Has It Been Too Long To Get Them Back?

Channel: Coach Craig Kenneth
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MS4wOl2wk0U

TL;DR: The coaches argue there is no expiration date on an ex coming back, and that using no-contact time for genuine personal growth gives you the best odds of turning things around if and when they do reach out.

Key points

  • The coaches claim exes come back after months, years, even decades; they cite examples they recall of reconciliations after 27, 37, and 50 years.
  • They are not telling viewers to put their life on hold and wait that long, only that reconnection remains possible.
  • They claim that believing an ex will never reach out is often tied to your own attachment issues and childhood experiences.
  • They state that human bonds and attachment do not have a strict expiration date ("It's not milk"), and that love can last for years.
  • They claim the neural pathways formed with a partner do not just disappear, and many exes only realize what they lost after time to process the separation.
  • No contact is framed as creating space and time for an ex to reflect, miss you, and let desire or curiosity spark, because "you can't miss something that's there."
  • They argue that sharing all your feelings with the ex removes the mystery and curiosity; some distance is needed for that to form.
  • They stress no contact is not a manipulation tactic; it just gives the relationship space to breathe.
  • They claim people change and gain perspective over time, may date others, face personal struggles (lost family, friends, jobs), and reconsider problems that once seemed too big.
  • Spending no-contact time on real personal growth (therapy, reading, journaling, their workbooks/course, ~30 minutes a day) is said to make you far more likely to turn things around.
  • They claim no contact provides clarity for both people, framing relationships as "mirrors" that force you to face yourself instead of blaming.
  • They describe "the one that got away" syndrome, where an ex idealizes positive memories while breakup anger and intensity subside over time, including physiologically (heart rate calming down).
  • They say they see reconciliations after 6 months on a weekly basis, and recount one client who reconciled after years.
  • They caution that defining success only as getting the ex back makes everything harder; you should not make your growth dependent on someone else's choices.
  • They explicitly state reconciliation is not guaranteed; some viewers will never hear from their ex.
  • Their stated goal is helping you work through attachment issues and become a more confident version of yourself, which they say benefits any future relationship or staying single.
  • They advise staying positive, avoiding negativity, and not watching the ex's stories or whereabouts, which distracts from growth.