THIS is how AVOIDANTS TEXT when they CARE¶

The speaker, a therapist, claims avoidants modify their texting once they start to care, and lists the signals to watch for.

Key points¶

Two baseline texting styles (predate you, not about you)

Type one (more often dismissive avoidant): prompt, timely, on-schedule replies, but business-like, unemotional, not romantic.
Type two: gaps of two or three days then disappearing, but warmer and more romantic when present; more hot-and-cold and more triggered during conflict. Speaker says she sees this type less in her own practice.

Seven signs an avoidant cares, by text

They initiate (at least sometimes); notable because avoidants rarely initiate, and female avoidants initiate the least of all.
They follow through on plans they stated by text (e.g. picking you up for the dinner they promised).
They correct your assumptions or miscommunications instead of going cold, adding clarity and reassurance (e.g. explaining that "all right" really meant yes).
They reply more promptly as they get closer, because they feel safer and want you to feel secure.
They circle back to soften a blunt or cold message once they notice you went quiet or short.
They start using emojis or smiley faces (esp. male avoidants, who usually avoid them), particularly when sharing good news.
They send pictures or videos of what they are doing (pets, hobbies, travel) to connect and share their life.