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Chasing Indifferent Women | A Coach Red Pill video

Channel: CRP Archive
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Onpe-_y5fIk

The speaker argues that some men, like women with "daddy issues," have "mommy issues" that drive them to chase emotionally indifferent or unavailable women while ignoring women who actually want them, leading to misery.

Key points

  • Just as some women raised by indifferent fathers chase inappropriate men, some men raised by mothers who were insecure or insufficiently comforting develop "mommy issues."
  • These issues do not express themselves as a physical type; they express as compulsively chasing women who are indifferent or aloof, often higher status or "out of your league."
  • The speaker uses himself as the example: women who were crazy about him he blew off; women indifferent to him he chased relentlessly, even at 51.
  • Chasing indifferent women can sharpen a man's pursuit skills, but it is psychologically damaging and offers no resolution.
  • A man who "wins" an indifferent woman ends up on a permanent treadmill trying to please her, never calm or at peace, in a marriage that is woefully unhappy.
  • The indifferent woman is not malicious or a bad person; she simply does not fit you and does not respond to you.
  • This is a "you problem," not a her problem: the man chases aloofness because of his own hang-up (call it Oedipal or otherwise), and the root may not even be the mother.
  • The fix is to recognize the pattern, "guard your heart," and choose the woman who actually cares -- the one who brings chicken soup, laughs at the same jokes, shares your tastes. Do not force a fit that is not there.

Reception

  • Many commenters were appreciative, calling the analysis precise and saying it described their own lives ("doing this with the same woman for 10 years").
  • A large share of comments were memorial messages ("RIP Coach," "Legend"), and some referenced the speaker (Gonzalo Lira) being jailed.
  • "Don't force the fit" was singled out as a standout line.
  • Several offered their own framings: low self-esteem valuing women by their unavailability; manhood's drive to challenge and overcome; people wanting what they cannot have.
  • One drew a biblical parallel (pearls before swine) about not wasting one's gifts on those who do not appreciate them.
  • A few pushed back or qualified, noting indifferent women are not always out of one's league and questioning whether the cause is truly "mommy issues."