When your ex wants back in...don't forget who had to heal without closure, who kept going, who grew¶
Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OxUYWzcmVO4
When an ex who chose distance comes back wanting another chance, you are no longer the same person who would have said yes just to feel close again -- and now you get to decide.
Key points¶
- Back then you would have traded your peace for crumbs; now you are choosing yourself, and her wanting you back doesn't obligate you to let her in.
- Don't let history guilt you, chemistry confuse you, or the timing of her return control you.
- Ask whether she has earned another version of you, whether she is here for you or the comfort you provide, and whether this is real effort or just a reaction to your absence.
- If she wants to try again, the decision is yours: does she fit the life you built without her?