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10 Reasons I'll Never Get Married Again

Channel: John Griffin (Life 2.0)
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Q5fGctNoh6E

A list of reasons he says he would never marry again, arguing that for about 90% of men marriage delivers nothing good and that the freedom, finances, and lifestyle of single life far outweigh it.

Key points

  • Court systems are his top reason: family courts treat men as "the short end of the stick," can erase decades of wealth, hand out indefinite alimony, and strip access to children. He suggests privatizing marriage to remove courts from relationships.
  • External validation: young men marry to be certified as legitimate, contributing members of society, but the validation never ends - you must keep earning her acceptance daily. You trade freedom for validation.
  • Lifestyle and your own home: living with a woman feels like living in "somebody's Princess dollhouse," surrounded by things you would never have bought. Single, he eats, watches, and lives on his own schedule with his dogs in the bed.
  • Finances: after 22 years and three kids he was penniless the day his ex walked out; 5-6 years later he is financially comfortable, with more in the bank than during most of the marriage.
  • No dependence on a partner: he always felt he carried the load and the heavy lifting landed on him.
  • Friends and entertainment: a partner judges your friends (he says he lost good friendships) and constrains your choices; alone he sees the events, movies, and trips he wants.
  • Camping/autonomy: his ex hated camping, which he loves; he is considering a trailer to travel with his dogs. He cannot see why anyone would voluntarily surrender autonomy and freedom for a legal arrangement.
  • The legal layer creates a power shift: the woman holds the divorce "card" - a Plan B and a tool for retribution backed by courts that will provide for her at his expense.
  • He claims only about 1 in 10 people are truly happy in marriage, that marriage is a day-in, day-out "slog" not romance, and that men have no idea what they are getting into. (Invokes the "1 in 10" and "90%" figures without citing sources.)

Reception

  • Overwhelmingly affirming and anti-marriage; many commenters share long marriages that ended in betrayal and say they will never remarry.
  • The top comment (1.6k likes) recounts a 30-year marriage to a "playboy bunny quality wife" who left for a co-worker she had been sleeping with - "I am shattered... That alone is a good enough reason to not get remarried."
  • A divorce lawyer commenter backs him up: "Pretty much everything he says is correct... I do not know any single, ambitious, successful, fit man over 40 who is single and unhappy."
  • Recurring quips capture the sentiment: "Always rent; never buy. The woman is never yours; it's just your turn," "Men are in love; women are in business," and jokes that divorce is expensive "because it's worth it."
  • The "never feeling at home in your own house" point landed hard, with commenters echoing the sense of walking on eggshells and being perpetually "on edge" trying to keep a wife happy.
  • The creator replies in-thread that he is "not jaded, just educated" and cannot understand men who go back for second or third marriages. Several blame the feminist movement for destroying the family unit.