Replying to @?? They don't always come back to fix it

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RwP-leIpVIw

Not all avoidants who come back do so with genuine intentions -- whether they do depends on their subtype and whether they have actually done the inner work.

Key points

• Dismissive avoidants typically return because the emotional charge faded and they miss safety or connection, not because they processed anything or plan to do better; therapy and real self-reflection are needed for a sincere return.
• Fearful avoidants (push-pull type) often have real feelings and deep regret but still fear vulnerability; genuine return is possible if they have faced their wounds, but without true healing the cycle repeats.
• Signs that either type has done the work: consistent effort, true accountability, and willingness to stay when things get uncomfortable.
• The key question to ask yourself when they come back: does this feel real, or does this feel like regret?