They disappear when it gets close...then reappear when you finally start healing

Channel: Mack Herman
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SzOJNsZFI1k

Avoidants come back after distance, but they return for the comfort you provided -- your softness, patience, and presence -- not because they are ready to meet your needs.

Key points

• Avoidants don't leave because they are over you; they leave because closeness felt too intense and they go numb to survive it.
• They return when the pressure is gone and they feel safe enough to peek back in without being asked for more.
• Silence gave them space to miss you; distance made them nostalgic -- but nostalgia is not readiness.
• The key question: are they coming back for you, or just for the feeling of you?