Numbing can look a lot like strength, until you realize what's really going on¶

An avoidant going quiet after a breakup is not over you -- they are numb, not indifferent, because they process emotions on a delay.

Key points¶

Avoidants don't process loss in real time; numbness is a shutdown response, not a sign they didn't care.
What looks like moving on quickly is emotional deactivation -- the feelings surface later, often unexpectedly.