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Machiavelli's Brutal Truth About Female Nature (Never Published)

Channel: Dominor
Video: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO_ZezDHY7Y

Framed as Machiavelli's hidden truths about human nature, the video argues that all relationships -- romantic, family, friendship, professional -- are exchanges rooted in self-interest, and that boundaries and strategic distance, not affection, determine respect.

Key points

  • The forbidden observation. Quotes "Men are ungrateful, fickle, false... when [danger] approaches, they turn against you." A thought experiment: if you lost everything that made you valuable, how many would stay? The small number is presented as the truth about loyalty. Machiavelli is said to have included himself in this assessment.
  • Truth 1 -- people stay for benefits, not bonds. "Men love according to their own will and fear according to the will of the prince." Partners, employers, and family stay while the exchange (emotional, practical, financial, sexual) favors them; history and blood ties do not override a changed cost-benefit calculation.
  • Truth 2 -- people test boundaries constantly. "Men never do good unless necessity drives them to it." Humans push to see what they can get away with; they respect enforced boundaries, not merely stated ones. The always-accommodating person gets treated worse over time. Real consequences (reduced contact, ending the relationship) change behavior or remove the person.
  • Truth 3 -- attraction dies without strategic distance. Complete availability and total transparency destroy value. Relationships die when people merge fully and abandon their own lives, becoming a "utility" rather than a separate person worth pursuing. The prince whose time is scarce is more respected; maintain genuine independence, not games.
  • The respect mechanism. "It is better to be feared than loved if you cannot be both." Reframed: affection is fragile because it depends on continued benefit, while respect based on enforced consequences is reliable. The person who is loved but not respected gets walked over.
  • Transformation protocol. A five-step program: audit each relationship's exchange balance; establish boundaries with consequences you will actually enforce; maintain a life outside every relationship; optimize for being respectable over being liked; manage exchanges consciously.
  • Counterarguments and freedom. Addresses objections (too cynical, eliminates connection, not all relationships are transactional) by reframing realism vs cynicism. The promised payoff is "freedom from naive victimhood" -- caring about people while accepting that loyalty has limits.

Note: The title promises Machiavelli on "female nature," but the content is general claims about human nature and relationship exchange, not specifically about women.

Reception

  • Strong agreement; many viewers say the framing matches lived experience ("99% of people do not truly love you, they just need something from you").
  • Several recount hard personal lessons -- a brutal divorce, watching a partner leave when a man lost his job or health, learning in midlife that being "useful" trained people to take them for granted.
  • A widely-shared sentiment that relationships are transactional ("everything in life is transactional"; "people are vampires emotionally, socially and financially"; "no one is coming to rescue you").
  • Notable counterexamples to the thesis, including a widower describing 45 years of unconditional love from his late wife.
  • Several defend Machiavelli as accurately describing the mechanics of power rather than being evil.
  • Some nuance and pushback: one comment argues Machiavelli exposed our denial rather than human darkness, and that dropping the demand for nobility turns "betrayal" into "clarity."